The Blame Game

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Then the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.” And the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” Genesis 3:12-13

Since the very beginning we have been blaming each other for our own misdeeds. Adam blamed Eve and Eve blamed the serpent. Neither took responsibility for their own sinful act of disobedience. It is always someone’s elses fault.

Are you like that too? I know I am! 🙁 And I know who I can blame that on too! 🙂 But I shall hold my tongue on this!

I was even told of a man who committed adultery repeatedly but blamed his wife and in laws for it! Amazing? Yes, amazingly common I am afraid.

And I just noticed this (yes, I know. I am a slow learner!) my children playing the blame game too! The moment something goes wrong, they are quick to point out that it is the other person’s fault. It is not just their sinful self that causes this. They are also modelling after…me!

Notice how we blame them for shouting at them or for making us angry with them? Don’t we often say, “I have to shout at you before you will obey.” Or “You made me so angry.”

The thing is – they did a misdeed but we don’t have to respond in anger or with shouting. But we allow ourselves to. And then we blame them!

Isn’t it a terrible thing we do?

We need to start taking responsibility for our own acts of sinful behaviour and call a spade a spade. And what’s scarier is that sometimes this act of blaming someone else is so habitual we do not even realise it! That’s where our spouses can help us. And if your spouse is in the same place 🙂 then you can make a pact to quit this habit together!

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