Who are you? How differently do you behave with the different groups of people you interact with? Will your children or husband be shocked when they see you in different environments? Do they truly know you? Do our private and public personas match?
Many times, as a parent of ONE child, we worry about adding another child to the family. How are we ever going to cope, we wonder? And many times people will offer helpful advice such as “get a maid” and/or “send the toddler to childcare/pre-school”. I share 8 tips on how to not just survive but thrive with the baby and toddler combo, without resorting to employing a maid or putting your older child in childcare, unless you really want to.
Have a couple’s date night without a babysitter? Yes, it is possible if you would think out of the box for a solution and make it work for you. Date nights are more about re-connecting with your spouse as Man and Wife than eating at a fancy restaurant or watching a movie. Manage your expectations and you can enjoy regular date nights without any babysitters.
Are the June holidays a time for you to bond with your children? Or is it a time of dread? Let me encourage you to see it as a fantastic time to re-connect with them. You can also help them detox from the stress of school and peer pressure. Let the holidays be a time for them to chill. Don’t pack it full of activities for the sake of getting them out of your hair.
Do you have a sticky child? I did! But don’t let anyone make you feel guilty that your child isn’t the life of the party. Or that he is unhappy being passed around. As long as you keep calm and keep encouraging, but not push your child to be sociable before he is ready, he will be fine. Find out how to gently encourage him to step out of his comfort zone.
Teaching obedience to a child is crucial because if he obeys only with major cajoling and bribery, how then will he obey when God calls him? And if he will not submit to your authority, how will he obey God’s authority. Think about that.
We often underestimate the immense influence (and power even!) we have as mothers, over our children. Whether we are full-time stay at home mothers or working mothers, our choices, our behaviour and our values, all influence and affect our children. Even when we are unaware of it.
Motherhood, like labour and delivery, is hard. And, like labour and delivery, we can choose to work with God or stumble our way through and make things more difficult. We CAN do this because it is God who has called to be mothers (yes, He did!), and He will equip us.
Must I cook and clean to be considered a good mother? Can’t I just farm both out and concentrate on just the fun parts? But cooking and cleaning are basic life skills. As a loving mother wouldn’t you want to equip your children with these basic life skills?
Indeed, what will our family, friends and colleagues say of us when we return to the Lord? We cannot dictate the legacy we leave behind, nor how history will remember us. But we can do our best to make sure that we have done our part.